content warning: age play, incest play, consensual non-consent A few weeks ago my girlfriend and I were in the planning stages of a live rope event we hosted together virtually. We knew we couldn’t do anything too risqué because zoom monitors for adult content (luckily a lot of SM isn’t “traditional sex” so it scrapes by the respectability algorithms). As the point of a
"There’s so much bleaching happening that sometimes I wonder if people even understand that at its foundation BDSM is actually about power and pain, not respectability or healing."
It's weird that you would write this when a few of your other articles you point out in a few ways how the dynamic is spiritual and healing. Especially the powerful bit in "devotional service" where you talk about having to take yourself out of survival mode and learn to ask for things from your submissive.
I've needed an article on this subject for a while now. Inspires me to work a little harder to shed more shame, be kinder to myself (about my desires and otherwise), and do a lot more reading. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much.
"There’s so much bleaching happening that sometimes I wonder if people even understand that at its foundation BDSM is actually about power and pain, not respectability or healing."
It's weird that you would write this when a few of your other articles you point out in a few ways how the dynamic is spiritual and healing. Especially the powerful bit in "devotional service" where you talk about having to take yourself out of survival mode and learn to ask for things from your submissive.
Good article!
Thank you for writing this, we need more thoughtful pieces about "problematic" kinks and I appreciate you stepping up to be one of those voices. :)
I've needed an article on this subject for a while now. Inspires me to work a little harder to shed more shame, be kinder to myself (about my desires and otherwise), and do a lot more reading. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much.
I'm so happy you're doing audio versions now, yr voice is the best